Tragic Grief Companion Kits©
Each of these kits are made up of a combination of helpful tools for homicide survivors and other tragically bereaved persons, including the White Noise CD, White Noise book & guided journal, Insight card set & memory box and Grief Solidarity bracelet. Empower your healing or give the gift of companionship to someone in need of bearing witness and penetrating the silence.
The Underbelly Insights©
The Underbelly Insights, a set of 12 flash style cards, are packaged in a beautiful memory box to hold precious keepsakes. The cards, created for all those who have faced the tragic death of a loved one, offer numerous insights to navigate through the overwhelming journey of tragic grief.
WHITE NOISE
Audio CD, 13 tracks.
Street date: September, 2005.
a bear witness project: penetrating the silence™
…Greg Tate, Village Voice, calls it "gut-wrenching and bangin"..
- where acoustic and electronic worlds collide laced with menacing beats.
Neycha delivers with melodic fierceness and in your face brashness. see
track listings.
Tracks
1. disclaimer
2. lil' girl
3. what's after this
4. is this all there is
5. it's impossible
6. never be the same again
7. what about ed
8. sweet ride: a street soldier's tribute
9. shake it off
10. the chosen ones
11. white noise
12. save yo'self
13. still
*bonus track
THE DIRTY SIDE UP
Audio CD, 11 tracks.
Release date: October 2001
…a sonic collage of aggression, emotional vulnerability, and self-introspection.
Mugshot magazine says, "it's the kind of album you take on a road
trip or play at extremely loud volumes while getting ready to go out."
see track listings.
Tracks
1. the comfort of chaos
2. what is this
3. you wanna luv a lie
4. wholly
5. one sunday morning
6. override her sorrows
7. the luv u can't see
8. makes me wanna get all hot
9. what'cha do
10. mista killa
11. sanctify
*bonus track
ITS IMPOSSIBLE
Audio CD, maxi single, 3 tracks.
Street date: June 2005
…a personal "shout-out" to the perpetrators of senseless
crime. aggressive, driving grooves fronted with passionate vocal deliveries.
guest starring emcees calico, 211, t-ro & ed's son preston. see track
listings.
part of the proceeds of the sell of this merchandise will go to
non-profit organizations supporting survivors of homicide.
Tracks
1. it's impossible
2. the remix (lord hear my cries)
3. sweet ride: a street soldier's tribute
beyond definition.
other.
kiss myself for being me.
an original crossfader.
T-shirts.
…part of the crossfader series™, the purchase of these t-shirts
celebrates your pride in being a unique individual outside the mainstream
and helps to confirm there is a thriving demographic of crossfaders who
are multi-disciplinarian, interested in the crosspollination of music,
art, style, ideas, fashion, etc. and whose spending habits reflect these
interests.
Grief Solidarity bracelet©
Solid Sterling Silver bracelet created for The White Noise Project by Evolutionarygifts.com. The bracelet, designed for homicide survivors and other victims of sudden and tragic death, holds three black onyx stones held by a sterling silver chain. The three stones symbolize and honor the victim of sudden death, the survivor and the new person the survivor will become. The link style chain represents the community at large and is symbolic of human solidarity that can shape and assist the survivor’s walk toward a “new normal.”
The energy of Black Onyx is slow moving and soothing, offering a stillness that allows the wearer to release negativity and to let go of stress and tension. It is a grounding stone, which can be used to create and remember our connection to the earth and find our center, making it a powerful ally during troubling times. It can be used to banish anything from grief and worry to old habits. Black Onyx is also a powerful protective stone. Helping the wearer to remain rooted and free of negativity, Black Onyx helps to absorb needed energies from the Universe, bringing happiness and good fortune.
White Noise, the underbelly of homicidal grief
your sorrow. broken hearted. irreversibly changed. i haven't forgotten.
take your time. bad day. courage to grieve. holidays. thinking about you.
anniversary.
a bear witness project: penetrating the silence™
…part of the bear witness project, these bereavement
cards were designed to offer to survivors of tragic loss at numerous intervals
during their struggle to recover, stabilize and begin the process of healing.
these cards were created by neycha to penetrate the silence that is often
times unfortunately inherited by survivors because "nobody knows
what to say."
part of the proceeds of the sell of this merchandise will go to non-profit
organizations supporting survivors of homicide.
I wish there were words that could speak to your sorrow in this moment.
I wish there were a gentle touch that could lean into your grief and make it lighter.
I wish many things, but nothing as much as wishing you through this difficult time.
I will be here so you don’t have to face it alone.
BROKEN-HEARTED
(UNEXPECTED LOSS)
You must be broken-hearted facing this tragic and unexpected loss. It must seem as though time is standing still, and this moment will never fade.
Honestly, I don’t know what to say.
But I will hold your hand, and stand by your side – be company in the silence and shoulder your crying.
IRREVERSIBLY CHANGED
(SUPPORT)
I won’t pretend to understand the magnitude of this tragedy in your life. I won’t tell you that it’s going to be okay, or that everything happens for a reason. I won’t act as though nothing happened. I acknowledge that your life has been irreversibly changed and you may never be the same. I will simply do my best to embrace who you are right now and who you’re becoming.
I will bear witness to the unfolding of your process.
I HAVEN'T FORGOTTEN
(ENCOURAGEMENT)
Even though there’s very little said about it now, I haven’t forgotten that you’re still facing an overwhelming loss. I realize the world around you may have failed to regain its wonder and you feel like you’re still in a fog. That’s okay and to be expected. Soon enough you will again be sober to all that life has to offer.
In the meantime, there’s nothing for you to do but breathe. And know that every breath you take is a revolutionary act.
TAKE YOUR TIME
(ENCOURAGEMENT)
Even though time has moved on, I know you’re still hurting. It must be difficult to witness life continuing to push forward at record speed while you’re still trying to find a way into a new life that you didn’t ask or plan for. Take your time. There is no limit on how long you can grieve for the loss of your loved one and the life you can never go back to. Even though time has in fact moved on, so have you – whether you or anyone else notices.
In time, new life will indeed rise up from within you as sure as the sun bathes the earth at daybreak.
Just checking in to see how you’re doing. I know nothing has to happen for you to have a bad day. And I want you to know I am here for you during those times when you feel like collapsing under the weight of realizing your loved one is gone forever. I imagine the steady companion of silence left behind takes your breath away, and sometimes the memories just aren’t enough. It is my hope that you will find everything you need to endure.
COURAGE TO GRIEVE
(ENCOURAGEMENT)
It takes guts to grieve. You’ve been remarkable to cultivate the space you need to feel what you can’t help but feel.
Do not let others desire to see you “moved on” for their sakes impede your natural grieving process. In order to move through it, you’ve got to move into it first.
I salute your courage and strength of heart to mourn.
HOLIDAYS
(SUPPORT)
I know that holidays can be a difficult time for you. There are no words to be spoken that can be of comfort right now, but I will pray that you will be cared for, loved and attended to in an extra present way by all of us who are thinking of you.
I am still here.
I am thinking about you. The reality of your loss is present with me all the time. Even though I can’t take your place or relieve your pain, I want to be available in any way I can. I will listen if you want to talk. I will talk if you have nothing to say. I will witness if you need to cry. I will keep reaching out to you even if you’re not ready to respond because I care about you and the sadness you must be feeling.
I will go the distance so you don’t have to travel alone.
I KNOW ITS A DIFFICULT TIME...
I know this is a difficult time right now. In a short while, you will be upon the tragic day that changed your life forever. Perhaps it feels like everything is happening all over again.
This may feel like the hardest thing you’ve faced in a long while. But perhaps on the anniversary of your loved one’s unexpected passing, their gentle presence will rise up in your heart and make you know they’re okay. I hope so.
Set of all 10 cards.
…these workbooks are direct outgrowths of neycha's holistic work
with clients one on one in her private personal growth practice and her
numerous workshops over the years. designed to help the client creatively
confront his/her personal baggage, re-conceptualize their personal story
and begin the process of personal transformation. for more information
about neycha's private practice and services offered, go to www.tobeconscious.com
…these cdbooks are direct outgrowths of neycha's holistic work with clients one on one in her private personal growth practice and her numerous workshops over the years. designed to help the client creatively confront his/her personal baggage, re-conceptualize their personal story and begin the process of personal transformation. for more information about neycha's private practice and services offered, go to www.tobeconscious.com